Alan Gast and Tom Retford didn’t know each other before they moved into Deupree House, located in Cincinnati’s Hyde Park neighborhood. They’ve become good friends—symbolic of the fellowship that develops quickly among neighbors in the premier retirement community.

Their camaraderie may have developed because each has an engineer’s can-do attitude and enjoys working with others to get things done. Both are among an active group of residents who are working to improve their neighbors' lives. They alternate leading weekly duplicate-bridge gatherings. Tom is chairman of the Deupree House Wine Club.  And they have both worked to garner support from fellow residents to thank Deupree House team members during the holiday season for the love and support they show them throughout the year.

Many Friends to be Made at Deupree House 

“We both tend to volunteer for things, and we ended up working together on a couple of them,” said Alan, who met Tom at one of Deupree’s bridge events.

Alan says of Tom, “I have great respect for him because he commits himself to anything that needs to be done and does it.”

Both led successful careers in business and industry—Alan for 35 years with P&G and Tom with several companies, working during most of his career solving customers’ problems by creating products or making them better.

Alan Gast and his wife, Marilyn, known as Tal, moved to Deupree House in September 2014. The parents of three had lived in the Cincinnati suburb of Wyoming for 25 years and then a condominium in Walnut Hills for 22 years. 

“I can’t imagine living anyplace else, really,” Alan said.

“As we got to be 80 years old, our kids said, ‘Mom and Dad, you don’t have any support services in the condominium. What are you going to do if one of you gets ill? You ought to find a place like the Deupree House,’” Alan said.

“We had friends who had moved here already and came over for a day visit, walked into the dining room, and knew about eight people sitting at the tables. And we looked at each other and said, ‘Hey, this is a classy place. And we know people. This is the right place for us.’ And it’s worked out fine.”

Tom and Earlene Retford, parents of five, moved to Deupree House in December 2018 and didn’t know any of the residents when they first moved in. They’ve made many friends since.

“We have in the four years here, made more and better friends than we did in the 35 years that we lived in Madeira,” Tom said.  “That’s because retirement communities like Deupree House are better environments for friendships than suburban neighborhoods,” he said.

At Deupree House, “We see the same people day after day,” Tom explained. “When living in our own house, we could see friends on the weekend—maybe, if lucky, five or six times during the year. Brushing shoulders with people is good.”

Some compare retirement communities like Deupree House to a college campus, where many interesting people around the same age share meals together, enjoy a cocktail with one another, volunteer throughout the community, and share interests and hobbies. 

Tom and Alan recommend that people move into continuing care retirement communities (CCRCs) like Deupree House while they’re still healthy enough to enjoy all it has to offer.

“Both my wife and I were in good health when we moved in,” Alan said. “We had two or three good years and then my wife’s health changed.  The support you get here is incredible.”

He becomes emotional when talking about the above-and-beyond help Deupree House team members provided the couple to help them during Tal’s illness.

“I think we moved in at a good time,” Alan said, looking back.

“Same thing,” Tom added.

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Stellar Careers and Similar Talents

Like many at Deupree House, Alan and Tom had impressive careers.

Alan, who earned a master’s degree in industrial engineering and operations research from Cornell University, was one of the first people P&G hired who had been trained in operations research, the use of mathematics, statistics, and computers to solve business problems. 

Alan worked in almost all divisions of the multinational company, even applying mathematical methods to advertising.

He was among the first with P&G to have an assignment in the advertising department. He worked as an assistant brand manager when Gain detergent had its national expansion, and his job was to figure out how his technology might be useful to people in that part of the business.

And they thought it was successful. I went on sales training for five months leading into that.”

Tom, meanwhile, received his bachelor’s and master’s degrees in chemical engineering from Michigan State University and later earned his MBA from Xavier University.

Tom began his career with the former Dow Corning Corp. in Midland, Michigan, where he moved into a product development laboratory and started working on customers’ problems and finding fixes for them.

“That has pretty much been my entire career,” he said of that problem-solving. 

He was working with plastics and moved to Brunswick Corp. because they were looking for new materials to use for bowling balls, and “they thought I could help with that.” He did.

Later, Brunswick bought the MacGregor sporting-goods company in Cincinnati, bringing him to town. By the time Brunswick later wanted to move him elsewhere, he had already fallen in love with Cincinnati, so Tom went to work for Cincinnati Milacron. A colleague of his there bought a business and invited him to join him at Cincinnati Fan, where he worked before retiring in 2004.

“I think we think alike,” Alan said. “He’s better than I with the computers, but I manage. We’re both mathematical, and problem-solvers.”

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Various Ways to Have Fun

The Gasts and Retfords have an array of interests.

Alan has such an interest in birds and birding that he’s been to Alaska four times and north of the Arctic Circle in Canada. He has taken professionally led birding trips. He also publishes a bird report a few times a year called “Strictly for the Birds” that he puts in the Deupree House mailroom for fellow residents, who frequently seek his expertise on what kinds of birds they’ve seen lately. Both he and Tom enjoy writing memoirs.

Tom and another resident enjoy helping Deupree House neighbors with free minor repairs in their apartments. Tom is also skilled with personal computers, enjoys woodworking, and plays bridge.

Tom leads the Deupree House Wine Club, while Alan, like several other residents, helps once a quarter, opening the resident-funded, self-serve wine bar in the dining room each night before dinner starts and closing it after dinner.  More than 60 residents participate.

Residents who want to remain active, mentally and physically, in retirement can do so at Deupree House.

“I think we write our ticket here. We find out what we want to do and what kind of life we want to have,” Alan said. “And then we have enough flexibility to make it happen here.”

Both Alan and Tom never thought they would find so many friends when they moved to Deupree House.  Like most residents, they decided to move to a retirement community to prepare for their future.  The sweet surprise is that Deupree House has created a place where neighbors can become friends—connected by interests, life experiences, and good times. 

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